It's not that big a deal, and you shouldn't feel funny about it. Transparency is a necessary part of the plan in these situations, where there's been prior infidelity, and prior deceit.
Goes with the territory. Starsky
I meant to say in my last reply to you Starsky that I agree that transparency will be important...
but I don't think that there is much that I can do until W is committed to working on our M...
Otherwise, I risk making her feel smothered as I did before.
I have to trust her.
Then I will -- with the help of the others -- support you. I just disagree. It goes back to that "able" vs. "willing" thing I posted previously. I do think your wife is sincere about WANTING to be NC with the guy; I'm just not sure that she's CAPABLE right now.
'nuff said; there's more important work to be done.
