Hi, it is very hard not to obsess about OP, and I understand it. But they really are irrelevant. Of course she is nothing like you.
He is looking for someone he can 'help' who will look up to him [in his view]. And what decent person has an affair with a married man? Withdraw from the situation as much as you can. MLC lasts a long time. I agree about not obsessing about the stages, but the crazy behaviour and total involvement is a sure sign of Replay. There is much discussion about whether the OP lasts beyond replay. Based on my own experience and what I have read I would say that the OP invovlement can continue after Replay behaviour ends. The acid test is whether the OP is really important to them any longer.
So the OP can remain as someone they see - and remember that they usually lose most of their good old friends during MLC. They are a crutch - indespensable at first and then less and less important. And one day they no longer need them. Also the OP often stick like a leech. Others don't.
However if the affair ends quite quickly, the MLCer will sometimes move on to another r. We are all here for you - survivors of our journey.
