Brooklyn - I think you deserve happiness. Four years is a long time, and he sounds like a very nice guy. I hope you have a lovely time dating, and wish you everything that is good. Most of us are wondering i f he has any brothers
I do have concerns when someone starts something very early on after their h has left, mainly because I think it is about self esteem, usually. Although not necessarily.
Also loved your response, and his reply. A grown up person.