[25yearsmlc]

before I really reply, let me get clear


has your letter with that description included, already been sent or not?


In short, is it too late to change anything now?

If it's Not too late, let's get cracking at re writing it.

Your L is reviewing it?

If so, he or she ought to be editing it so the least harm possible is done.

I'm not trying to bang you over the head but the letter was unecessarily critical in the characterizations and historic details and It's so inflammatory.


Get ready LB,

IF I were you, I'd expect an amazingly different version of your marriage to be

hurled back at you in the Legal response. It's tough to see it in writing, as you know.

If you try to take a mother's child from her,

MOST mothers will do what they need to do to get their kids...


they'll waive child support, they'll live in squalor, they'll protect the dirtbag IF it means she gets her kids...

and they'll lie to get their kids too. And she has MIL, her "witness" to back her up.

But then again, w was willing to leave the kids and not tell them what was going on, which was risky.

(SIGH)...

When I went to file for div, my L suggested only filing for a sep, b/c she felt there was hope in our sitch (she was a real blessing)

and she also suggested I call h to ask where he preferred being served; work or "home". But I asked her to do that and so she did. He waived service so no one had to present the papers to him; all he did was sign a certified letter that says "I get it. She filed" and that way no one has to embarrass them in their home with the kids around OR at their jobs.


I'd be disappointed if your L lets that letter fly as is. But anyhow...

let us know if it's a done deal or not.