Hiya Beatrice, thanks for stopping by and for the good wishes.
Hey Grace, how are you, my friend?
I thought long and hard about posting about the next step in my journey. I feared that people might misunderstand. I thought it might not be appropriate.
But, I have always tried to be very honest. I have always hoped that maybe something I write might help someone else.
I hope that no one is offended by my writing about my new friend.
It is almost four years post bomb for me. Four years of not having any kind of relationship with my xh other than as aquaintances.
No matter. I still felt married. Still felt I needed to honor my vows. I knew that I was not ready for a new relationship while I still felt that way. I also knew that I had a lot of work to do on me.
I wasnt looking for anyone. I had a full life. I had some health issues to deal with and other stuff as well.
I had been asked out from time to time. I always declined. It wasnt fair to someone else to start something I wasnt ready for.
As I said, I was not looking for this. I am still not sure if I am completely ready for it.
But, he is someone I knew many years ago. We were business aquaintances. I had not seen him in over 25 years.
We started talking about when we worked at the same place. We enjoyed that conversation and had several more. Then he asked me out.
Honestly, I almost didnt go. It felt wrong somehow and he sensed it. We talked about it and he left it up to me.
He told me he understood that it was difficult for me after being with someone for so long. It was just two old friends going out.
Now I dont know if he really felt that way or if it was just a way to get me to go but, I felt I had to try.
We had a great time. The next few dates I felt more comfortable. He is a nice man. A special person.
He asked if my xh were to come around and want to try, what would I do? I told him the truth. That I would have to listen to what my xh had to say. That I felt that because of our history and our son that was what I needed to do.
This kind man said, I respect you so much for that, B. I understand and I am going into this with my eyes wide open.
