My faith gives me the courage to move forward

[25yearsmlc]

rysmom,

I too am at a loss of words for helping you. It's clear to me that there's not a big chance of saving your m with your behavior and yes you do have something to lose b/c you refuse to do what we suggest. You lose the opportunity to do something helpful to your sitch.

You really have not truly done the DB work. You combine it with approaches that undermine it, like sending him a rejoice ministries article. What did you think would happen? He'd slap his forehead and say "NOW I GET IT!! OMG I HAVE TO RUN HOME!...??"

We KNOW your approach isn't working. He came back for 2 years and left again. You never said what you did in those two years

or how you changed. OR IF you changed.

And what Bond said about the tennis man, is spot on. It's ironic you feel like 2nd fiddle to him but with your h living with OW you are fine...b/c he's buying you a washer and dryer...I mean, this is nuts to me.

Your son is not simply taking "normal" anger out on you. I wasn't there but my guess is that he needs a strong mother and an advocate.

You come across as being in a state of internal paralysis. Weakness in a parent annoys and frightens children, especially at his age.


Have you tried medication? I say that as a woman who has, and who benefitted greatly.

To me it seems you are putting your despair onto the altar and thinking it makes you a martyr...

but it's helplessness you are choosing - OVER YOUR SON.

Be brave and get help Rys. You concern me.