BTW, I love a good debate... And you lawyers can debate...
But you don't "debate" SBH. You merely repeat your assertions.
You look for places to insert "STOP BASHING THE LBSer!!!"
even when it's clear no one is "bashing" the LBser.
Where'd you even get that from this thread?
When I state the MWD/DB belief that it's NOT our job to show the spouse the consequences of their actions, b/c life does that for them, you
reduce that statement to one saying "be a doormat."
That statement is not responsive to what was being said here.
It's very black and white to you. The idea that somehow our moral compass is doomed b/c I asked 2step about forgiveness,
is insulting. Yet it makes sense that it would come from someone w/no idea what forgiveness looks like.
But This is not a debate. It's a harangue. [/b] Here, We're discussing the value of the personal growth we've experienced by coming here, opening our hearts to strangers, and truly processing another point of view.
We've looked within, which takes a lot of guts. We chose to react to a blow to our hearts, by trying to learn from it. We chose to do what WE could, to know we have done our very best. We've endured, we've grown and We have changed for the better.
You think there are people who promote "no consequences on this site"?
You have missed yet another valuable piece of this whole approach.
You seem to seek out my posts so you can argue with them,
to insert your belief that the LBS must "face the consequences", and to assign blame the way you think it should be assigned.
This isn't a trial. We've had something bad happen in our lives and for many of us, it's VERY unfair.
EVEN SO, for those of us who are honest with ourselves and dig deep, we usually find that unless we picked a really bad egg as our partner, we're partly responsible for the marital problems too. You can harangue and stomp around about that all over this site, trying to restructure it to conform with your beliefs, but That changes the whole discussion here. So
why not just start your own thread?
There is a beautiful flavor to 2steps posts, which I don't want to change.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
