in the beginning i came here looking to save something that was already beyond saving. it ended and i left here, couldn't come back for a long time, the colors, the stories, everyone else going through this was too much, too many triggers bringing back bad memories. after a long while i came back and post on random threads, hoping my experience can help others. or help myself.
DB is said to help save a marriage. sometimes it does.
but what it really is about is saving yourself. doing what makes you a better person not for the WAS, but for your own mental health. making yourself more attractive, but for your own confidence. doing whats right, to prevent yourself from having to feel guilty in the future. being a better parent for your children.
if that saves your marriage, then great.
if not, then at the very least you've saved yourself. and thats no small thing.
but it really is all about you. everything you do should be about you.
"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".
