However, I think many also act out of anger. I do not think either should be in the driver seat.
I couldn’t agree more Jack. It is a complicated thing, at least for me, to not mix anger with letting go lovingly. But it is vitally important to work through your own anger and not project it because in the end you only end up hurting yourself.
Originally Posted By: KenF
best of luck to you. i'm from your future and it does get better. i'm going to lay this out there and try to have it make sense, but i fear i will fail at that. i cannot and will not ever forgive the X and the OM. but that only hurts me. the act of forgiveness has nothing to do with the WAS or what was done. its an act to allow ourselves to live a little lighter in the baggage department. purely selfish reasons. we say "forgive them", but really it means "allow yourself to move past their action"
Ken thank you for posting this. I love to see a vet come out of nowhere and share their thoughts. I think that your opening line should be standard for any new poster.
I see you are from Central NJ. What part, if you don’t mind me asking? This whole time I thought I was the lone DBer from NJ.
Originally Posted By: KenF
"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".
Probably one of the best quotes I have seen on the boards. I love it
