No response from the card today - as expected. When I came home from work tonight D19 said "I love that shirt and Mom liked it too". Apparently STBX noticed the shirt enough in the minute I was there to mention it to D19. It's a little thing, but still makes me feel good. I think if the card really upset STBX, she would have said something to the kids. So..maybe it wasn't a big deal at all. Back to dark.....