best of luck to you. i'm from your future and it does get better.

i'm going to lay this out there and try to have it make sense, but i fear i will fail at that.

i cannot and will not ever forgive the X and the OM. but that only hurts me.

the act of forgiveness has nothing to do with the WAS or what was done.

its an act to allow ourselves to live a little lighter in the baggage department. purely selfish reasons.

we say "forgive them", but really it means "allow yourself to move past their action"

"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".