Hi, I am there right now. On Father's day, while my H was moving from one apartment to a 2 bedroom apartment, the private detective I hired found him with the OW (that I did not know existed) holding my children-she is actually moving into the apartment with him!!!!! The PI pretended to be a new neighbor and she told him that her name was Nicole and that she and her boyfriend were living there with THEIR two children (yes, my children!). I was devastated. On FAther's day of all days.
Did I confront him? Yes. And filed for divorce. I have a 3 year old and 11 month old baby and he comes when he wants to, contributes no support to the kids, and I am working and supporting myself as a single mother. I can't do this any longer. I am in full dark/LRT and he is getting served today. Do you know I actually made his last car payment two weeks ago and he was driving his new girlfriend around in the car I am paying for?
It has been 6 months for me, 8 months of emotional detachment, and he makes no attempts to work with me. He is in full blown MLC. I just can't wait it out anymore. What man leaves a 5 month old baby and 2.5 year old girl?
My heart goes out to you. I am not advocating that you file for divorce but to really look at the situation and see if you are stressed/tired/hurt and want a quick solution to this mess or are you reallyd done. For me-I am really done. Finding my husband with a new woman, holding my children, and finding out that he was not going to tell me about this (I know nothing about this woman and would have known nothing about this woman had he not been caught)-I am done. I know infidelity should not kill a marriage but I am managing all that I can right now with no end in sight. For me-enough is enough.
Give yourself a chance to get some rest and really think about your options before filing. I prayed and really thought about it. I will keep DB and move on and only time will tell if it makes a difference.
