Match or eHarmony or ...

[ClingingToHope]

To me, dating is part of being active. If an opportunity turns up, I'm not going to turn it down.

The Match girl in December. Yes. I did feel guilty. I was still married. I was very conflicted. I also didn't see anything in her other than a good time. I couldn't see myself EVER introducing her to the girls as daddy's GF. That in the end is why I let that go. Why waste time and money on someone when there's no future?

Now, Church_31? I would introduce her to the girls. In fact, they've already met her, although they don't know that I like her.

I'm waiting there not because of me, but because of her. I haven't gotten any indication she wants to be anything more than friends and she just came out of a failed engagement. I'm waiting for some sign on which way to proceed.

My worry is the opposite of what you are saying. I worry if I don't actively get out there and look I'll just melt into a life of work, working out, kids ... For me, it'd be easy to do that. I have four jobs, the kids 45 percent of the time and basketball/softball/tennis/swimming to play.

It's actually harder for me to get back out there. I hate rejection. I hate the chase. I hate the feeling of being back in high school. That's part of the reason I clung on the marriage so hard. It was safer to be unhappily married than to be happily single. For me, getting back out there is a SIGNIFICANT hurdle.