OK, thanks. So my timeline was wrong, but she has, in fact, been deceitful less than truthful with you about the nature of her contact, and her R, with OM.
So how will you know if she is, indeed, "taking June by herself?" if there's no transparency plan in place?
I guess I just have a basic philosophical/strategic/tactical difference here with several others. Some say "Can't lay out a strict 'NO CONTACT' boundary until you're ready -- and SHE's ready to come back," and I say "She won't BE ready to come back, as long as she's being influenced by OM, and if you DON'T lay out firmer/clearer/less-fuzzy boundaries, she's not GOING to end her contact, and she WILL be influenced by OM, and emotionally blocked to all of this wonderful "new Denver" you are learning to grow into.
Basic chicken-and-the-egg, and not really worth debating. I was mainly just trying to buck you up from feeling foolish or embarrassed about needing transparency, because I think it's perfectly reasonable, considering.
