This is where I believe your difference of opinion is rooted. You seem to see empowering the LBS with what THEY CAN DO as bashing.
I see it very differently.
I agree with this statement 100%. SBH calls it bashing, when in reality, all we are talking about is WHAT WE CAN CONTROL. We focus on the LBS bc the majority of us here are LBS. What can we control? Only ourselves... not the actions, thoughts or choices of the WAS or any other person. It may come across as bashing bc that is what we focus on...
But what other choice do we have? Spend our time here pointing blame at the WAS? Deflecting responsibility for the things that we SHOULD own that contributed to the downfall of our Ms?
That helps no person or situation here IMO.
We learn and grow by accepting responsibility for our role in what has happened... we learn and grow by WORKING to correct THOSE THINGS...
THOSE THINGS... which are the ONLY things for which we have any control over.
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M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
