I don't want the foundation of anything in my life to be built out of fear.
This is very good. Acting out of fear is paralyzing and once you decide to let go it is actually freeing!! I caution you or anyone else to let go prematurely, as 25 said awhile ago. “it is better to hang on too long that to give up to quickly” something along those lines. My anniversary came and went. I worked all day came home and chatted with friends. You woke up to a text I got one at 11:30 at night. What I mean is that you have to let go or the M while not giving up hope. Make sense? For the time being stay busy today and do something you have NEVER done! That would be fun!
Originally Posted By: DelinquentGurl
I deserve more, and so do they.
Yes. You both deserve the best version of you and the best life possible. If it is with you, Great! If not, Great! There is a fine line between saying “screw it I deserve so much more” that has the potential to lead you into anger in which case you will become resentful. It is another thing to say “R over I love him he can live his life and I will live mine.” This will allow you to just worry about yourself and not allow his actions or inactions to affect you. I know it is tough. The one thing I am most proud of is how I handled myself. If I would have not done it this way I guilt and shame would have consumed me.
Originally Posted By: Timetotry
actually far from it but I see that text differently. I see that in some way he still reached out to you on your anniversary together.
^^^^^^^I agree with this. Men are such simple creatures. You know, when we were kids we would pull on a girls hair just because we liked them. Of course most times the girls had no idea we actually liked them, to us boys well it is just guy code. I can’t say we have evolved all that much since grammar school we might not pull your hair but we do send silly text.
DG Chin up!! YOU will never regret going through this.
