The divorce hasn't even been final a month and I am going through some ups and downs I hadn't felt in a while. But still, I am ready to at least start looking again.
No you're not! You're still fussing about your X's online dating habits! Why do you care? You haven't "stumbled" across her profile but I'm betting you'll check it out if it's there. I say, take six months and be with CTH. Think about what you really want in your life and how you can be happy without a R. It's when you WANT a R, not NEED it that you are really ready to start "looking". Anybody whose D has been final for less than a month and has been through what you've been through is not just "looking", you'll be validating! Validate yourself for a bit. That's my 2 cents for what it's worth.
