Forgot to answer your last question. Yes, I forgave her within a few weeks of finding out about OM. Just can't carry that kind of ill will in my heart. Just don't have it in me.
It is funny how we can become comfortable alone after a while. I know what you mean. I definitely miss the companionship, her soft voice, and her soft touch. You know, one of her comments to me as we separated was that she said I just couldn't be alone and would likely remarry within a year or two of us D'ing. Well, turns out she's the one who immediately hooked up, and I am El Solo Lobo. Kind of like it that way under the circumstances. Reminds me of my college days. No ties, no plans, free to do as I please.