I pray for more time, I really do. Originally, our D was supposed to be on track for Aug-11. All assets were to be liquidated, huge taxes paid, utter disaster to our nest egg. By getting her to agree to trading the real estate, it bought an extra 6 to 12 months, saves most all the taxes, and will continue to provide cash flow to both of us. We have a lot of blessings to count. Make no mistake about it, the extra time is the most valuable of all. Should stall the big D until next spring 2012. In the mean time, I get to keep on DB'ing best I can. Again, if I fail, I will have given it my best and will be very sad, but will have no regrets.
Got back from the D13's tennis match. We joked and had a good time watching D13 (her team won). I had made plans to send the kids to Hawaii to stay with her dad for a week in Aug-11. W was born and raised there. That's where we met and lived for 15 years. D17 was born there too. W said she would like to go with the kids, but said she did not have enough $$. I'm a sucker and said I would pick up her ticket too. She really did marry a good guy, and as long as she's spending time with the girls, I will subsidize. Her dad is sick about the whole thing, so maybe a week with him will help her introspection. I will stay and go fishing up in the mountains. The quietness and clean air will do me good. After tennis, she invited me to dinner with D13 and her. Pleasant dinner and D13 really seemed to appreciate it. I bought of course, but no big deal. W seemed to appreciate that. She's not broke by any means, but I do whatever I can to smooth our relationship.
My only hope is that she starts to miss our family enough, particularly us. She really did live an easy beautiful life. She is just very messed up in her priorities. There is not much I can do but be the best person I know. Mostly for me, but also in hopes she will also take notice ...
