Healing Minor Injuries

[DownNotOut...yet]

OK, you know I am on your side but bend over and feel the pain of the 2x4 coming...

My W had me sleep in the guest room last night.

You're a man...you're THE man in your house.

She is pitching a hissy fit so you are relegated to the guest room. DO NOT ever stoop so low again. I think just by standing your ground and refusing to be related to the couch, you could have increased her attraction to you considerably. This was a key opportunity to take lemons and make vodka lemonades out of them.

I am starting to see a pattern. This may be code yet again for her being pissed at something but not having the guts to really speak up about what is bothering her...or like my wife, she will pick at something until you figure out what is really bothering her. The sleeping arrangements accomadating her night owlness may not even be the issue.

From here, her concern seem's trivial, self-centered, and after the fact. I would absolutely not frame it like that to her. You might point out that you would be willing to try to work with her but she needs to tell you about these types of things in advance. You also need to tell her that sometimes you can work things out for her, sometimes you might not. Sometimes she will have to tough it out. This is what couples do for each other.

Now all that said, I think she is trying to tell you something...this reads that she may be disapointed that you were not more assertive and/or manly in the handling of the accident.

My W took control and managed all the phone call with the insurance company and rental car company.

This seems like traditional "man work". I also think she was traumatized and this is her way, perhaps of venting. My wife does stuff like this too.

This is all supposition of course but you two seem of the age where more traditional roles would be played. Handling the accident would be in your court. Being more assertive (not controlling but assertive) does seem like something you could use work on. Food for thought