Remember that Denver has some things to prove to HER...
SHE has to learn to trust HIM too....
and all this crazy making headwork is just dangerous.
Good grief Denver, you were praying for a chance. Remember how much it sukked that she wasn't with you??
You thought you and she were DONE less than a month ago!!
Then you get the miracle you so wanted. The concept of reconciliation is more than a mere concept now. OMG...
And We all said "Be cautious!! Don't rush things!" You said "good point"...
SHE came up with a one month "time for ourselves" proposal, which was healthy. You agreed.
SHE chooses to give you her itinerary...a new thing for her. And
this was your chance to show her that you are different and your changes are real....
so what do you do?
You pine and whine & obsess with duress, about whether she's telling you the truth and how you can check on her and blah blah blah
= YOU ARE BLOWING IT!!!
GET OFF THE LEDGE DENVER...
What exactly are YOU showing HER with this nonsense?
Next month we can address how you want to disclose whatever you're compelled to...
but for now, you need to just back off and try to be the new man you claim you are.
I'm seeing a big backslide into old Denver here.
What's that going to be like if you do move in together? You really do need to work on this b/c you'll be out the door in a few weeks, for good, if you cannot get a workable plan here.
Jack has some good ideas but please remember to balance it out with your side of things.
If I recall correctly, jack did not have the issues you did.
Those issues were a huge part of why your w left in the first place.
So my question is
How are you going to show HER that YOU can be trusted
not to be the old Denver? You have some proving to do too...
PS---#2
Just so you know, some of this never ends but you have to stifle it. It does get smaller, and the good times get bigger and longer.
But yes, To this day, if h watches a show on Alaska or the tundra or some weird manly adventurous place...or buys a magazine or book about those places...
I get a little nervous.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
