I guess that is reasonable but it seems to me sometimes that she just needs to text me something but I dont reply
Should I ?
IMO, you shouldn't reply. But then, I didn't think she should have been invited to the son's BD party.
She uses the TM as a means to keep her hold on you. She wants to hang on to family activities and chat with you, but she doesn't want to be a faithful W. From what you have said from the TM's, it could all have been done without....or it could have all been said in a few minutes. She looks for reasons to text you. If she left you alone, I think you would be able to move forward with your life. She's doing the same thing as picking at a scab and the sore won't heal. Does she text when OM is over at her house?
Let me ask you something, you were talking about her making a statement about some flower plants. Has everything around the house pretty much stayed the way it was when she was living there?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
