Rebuilding a friendship...Thread #4

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Now here’s the real kicker…if I pull back and don’t initiate these pleasantries or conversations, she assumes that I am upset with her and she gets mad because I am being “the same old Navyguy” by walking around the house “in a mood”.

How the he|| do I break this cycle??? Whether I’m nice or I pull away, I end up feeling like crap, and it doesn’t seem to affect how W treats me at all.

Hey Navy, good to hear from you.

Here are a few thoughts.

I think you can show you’re not “in a mood” and pull back some at the same time. My suggestion, KIDS. Focus on the kids. Play with them. Laugh with them. I am not saying you are not already doing this, but I am saying if you put your focus on them, and not your W, she might see more of what she will miss out on.

My other thought is a question. What have you been doing for you? Do you go out? Any activities? Teams? Organizations? Get out and do stuff.

I guess to break it down. When at the house. Kids, kids, kids.

Also get out of the house. Do fun and interesting things.

Don’t forget the basics of all of this. 180’s. GAL. Stop pursuing.