74 Days - Who Knows?

[Denver_2010]

Denver:

I envy you and am glad im not you at the same time. Its obvious why I envy you but I was thinking today. What IF my W did come back, how paranoid would I be that she couldnt get the OM out of her system. Not saying this to fuel your fire Denver, because god knows it wouldnt take much, but just for you to take a giant step back and look at your sitch.

Right now you are driving yourself nuts with paranoia right. Im not sure if this is the right approach but at this point, you are experiencing something that you didnt think possible, your wif's possible return. What have you got to lose right now? For all intents and purposes, she was gone right. So if she does betray your trust, you are were you thought you'd be a couple of weeks ago. What Im trying to say , and not having much success is that you have to let her go and hope that she chooses the right path. That she will come back to you and be your wife again like she was before all this shite happened.

To keep looking over your shoulder will drive you crazy and you are to good to be reduced to that. Its a tough call Denver but I think at this point you have to accept that she is not with OM and if you find out that she is , Well then its over in Chicago as they say.

Did any of this make sense to you?

9

Damn 9 ... it did. You are right. And I know that what I am feeling is about lack of control. What I want to do more than anything is to call W, ask her about the last 2 nights, and hope to get some reassurance.

What good would that do? Nothing... realistically. She could lie to me.

I have no choice but to trust her to do the right thing... like you said.

And if something is happening during this time that we are 'taking space'... the reality is that I will probably never know.

THAT is what drives me crazy.

Thanks 9. It helps to talk it out and get feedback.

I would love to here from Cat or 25... You guys have a way of talking me down from my ledges!

Denver