Sorry man, didn't see your post from this morning. Sounds like you've been hit a double whammy with your own MLC and now your W's. You hang in there too.
Definitely know about keeping hope in a small compartment. It leaks out now and then, and I really have to struggle to put it back in. I try to stay very positive around most all people, as they really got sick of my whining in the early months of this crisis. Learned a lot about keeping it positive and have reaped the results from those around me, including my W.
Like I said, our R is actually very positive at this point. She has her BF which makes her very happy. I act like it's no big deal to me as we are in the process of D. She does know I don't want this D, but is convinced I will never change and we are incompatible. All standard MLC speak. I don't argue but agree on certain points and generally wish her well in our interactions. We shall see if my new peaks her interest. Only a lot of time will tell.
I can say that the 180 technique does work in all phases of life, and has truely taken the explosiveness out of our sitch. Case in point is her calling off the D so we could straighten out our investments first. Takes a lot of trust on both our parts to do this. She knows she has not the slightest acumen when it comes to finances, so she's relying on me to set things up for both our retirements. It's definitely enlightened self interest on my part, but hey, as long as we both benefit, my bruised ego can be put aside.
