For my sanity and my marriage I have to just let it go
I had a friend who told me that when a person has a S who treats them so badly (like cheating) that it may be as simple as the way he/she looks at you one day.......and then you know you're through.
We can't tell you when you've had enough. Right now, you seem to be saying that you will continue with the stitch b/c you can't do anything about her or the boss, and you can't detach. If this is not what you're saying, then please correct me.
There are a lot of things in life that we know the answer to the problem.....but living the answer is very hard on a day to day bases. Just look at all the overweight people. They know the answer, right? Doing it? Not so easy. So, they choose the negative things that are associated with obesity, over losing the weight.
It's your life and only you will know when you've had enough. At least you are being honest with yourself, and I think that is better than living in denial.
SL, have you really tried the list of Do's and Don'ts? I mean, even if you can't detach emotionally, have you worked that list?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
