So sorry Cadet, I only was referring to her possible stubborness. Got to be an incredibly stressful situation. All are sitch's have their own flavors, but it is helpful for me to try and see things from your perspective when seeking your advice. I wholly understand the part of not wanting the D. Truly. But as the Stones song goes, "you can't always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you just might find, you get what you need" [whether want it or not!!!].
In some ways, my separation is a godsend in that I don't have to deal with the raw emotion of seeing my W every day. I miss my W and old life terribly, yes. However, there are many other emotions that dredge up when I see her, so separation can have its benefits.
