I seem to be in the doghouse today for some reason. I'm scratching my head over it. My W had me sleep in the guest room last night.
On the way home from our ordeal, she told me she was disappointmed that I didn't do a better job of advocating for her regarding the room arrangements with my family. She thinks I should have told my parents that she is a night owl and needs apace at night outside the bedroom to pass the time (like at home). I was thinking that she could adapt once she saw the arrangements for herself. There were going to be 12 people in a 10 person house. It's true that I didn't get a final head count until the day prior to the trip. My W had it in her mind that the living room would be free, as she is a night owl. My nephew was going to sleep on the couch. I'm not sure what other options there could have been, other than for her to not go or stay at a nearby hotel. She believes I should have taken care of this issue for her. I believe there isn't any option that would have satisfied her.
I got defensive when she brought this up in the car. Her timing was poor. I think the options were limited. She had to choose to adapt or not. I think she chose to go and complain and not adapt. Who knows how she would have handled it once we got there?
I'll make sure we get to the chiropractor today. I'll tolerate her moods, and let her have some space, and her opinions, and engage when it's constructive.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
