Advice well taken about keeping an open mind. At my age, not much surprises me, though I admit this left turn my W took in Jan-11 did throw me off my game for a few months. I am recovering, but would not say I will ever fully heal. Time will tell.
You've been such prolific poster that it is hard to get a read on your current sitch. What is the status of you and your wife at present? Still living together, but separate? Anyone file for D? Is she still deep in menopause? Anyway, just like to understand your circumstances. Again, thanks for your care and advice. MW