MLC World, No OW involved. It was an internal battle within in my own mind. It lasted approx 2 1/2 yrs. I was close to leaving, runnimg away but did not. The mental pain was indescribable. I made it through somehow, someway "but for the grace of god" i will say. Since it was an internal battle my kids were really not affected. I still did things with them but was just not there mentally. When people say there W or H was taken over by an alien that was me. It seemed like someone else was puling all the strings and I was on the ride in a drug induced haze.
My MLC was not mild by any stretch. It was the most painfeul experience of my life so far. My W MLC is the second most painful process to go through. Even having gone through a MLC and having some empathy towards the situation it still S-%%%^&.
My W MLC is approx 2 yrs in at best guess. There is not one thing you can do to help a spouse through MLC. They have to somehow get themselves through it. It is a jorney to get through it.
I still love my wife dearly but I put that hope in a small compartment. I have detached and GAL'ed fairly well. But, we are all human. I still have bad days. They are not what they were. I feel bad for my kids because they do miss there Mom. She in no way even understands the pain she is causing. Maybe someday who knows.
You ask if OM involved. I honestly don't know. And really it doesn't matter at this point. Someday it might and would need to be forgiven. I don't think you know all your strenghts and weaknesses til your faced with actual decisions.
Hang in there MLC world. Sounds like you'll have a life with or without her and thats all you can do.
