Please help...

[GAL Man]

Below is what I believe the LRT/Dropping the rope/Dark means. Now I am no expert and am only just into this process myself, but this has been compiled with info from here, books and other resources.

Remember though, KIDS are priority over EVERYTHING

What do we hope to achieve by doing the last resort technique (LRT)

Firstly doing LRT means we have no contact, but what does this mean, well by not chasing/pursuing spouse this shows:

Strength
Courage
Non neediness
Independence

Result = Attractiveness

Secondly, by having no contact you are letting spouses negative emotions come out, such as bitterness, resentment or anger, if you are constant contact or pursuing etc all spouse will do is defend their actions and it will make their feelings stronger. By having no contact you give spouse time and space to process these emotions (hopefully)

You need to counteract their negative emotions, whether you agree with them or not, with positives. This will help change their perception, or change the images of you they may have.

I think the following 2 below are what 25 posted
"you need to back off so that the she can hear that little voice in her head saying, WTH are you doing?, Trust me in the silence of night, she wonders"

"you need to give her the space so she can examine her choices and not have to defend them because you are in her face challenging them"

No contact doesn't mean you avoid spouse at all costs, as some may still live together, have kids together or work together. It is not physical action, more of a mental action.

If you have to have contact with spouse, ensure you act "professional", be vague or short on words, but not rude. Do not bring up any talk of M, R or D, let them initiate this, and if they do, validate their feelings where appropriate, remember most WAS are not making rational decisions, so trying to communicate rationally will have no effect, they are going on emotions. Act as if you are getting on with your life, if you find this hard use the mantra "fake it until you make it". You will find acting happy around spouse and others will start you to believe it more.

Getting a Life (GAL)
Laugh, have fun, and focus on other aspects of your life.  Most LBS (inc me) at the start use this to SHOW spouse what they could be missing and trying to entice them back, WRONG. GAL is for YOU, and if done to get spouse back the changes will not last and spouse will see right through it. GAL is for YOU, yes they may have the paradoxical effect of showing spouse you are getting on with your life (which is good) but these are for YOU (and kids) on how life is going to be without spouse and what YOU do to make yourself happy. YOU can only CONTROL yourself, and your own happiness is down to YOU and YOU ONLY

Mystery
Get some mystery in your life, don't lie or try to cover things up, just be non-committal or vague. Now, you are not trying to get spouse jealous (that could backfire badly) but you are just planting little seeds of doubt.

Again, posted by 25 IIRC
"you need a little mystery in your life so the idea of HER LOSING YOU finally crosses her mind.

Questions WAS may have due to LRT no contact

Why aren't they calling me
What are they doing
Who are they with
Do they not want to be with me anymore

All potential questions which COULD help the LBS cause

Doing all of the above is what YOU need to do to get on with your life to be the best possible YOU. Conversely this is also what you have to do in order for your spouse to reconsider.

Couple of other points

One of the main phrases around here:
What is my goal here? Is what I am about to do going to bring me closer or move me further away from my goal?

Seek out the 37 rules from here on the forum, put them in your Smartphone or carry them. Read them everyday, they are invaluable.