Monday afternoon I got a call from S12 saying he had been arguing with D14 (well she is 14 next week), who had shouted at him that it was his fault that mum and dad split up. This upset me somewhat, so I had a long talk with them when I got home (they both said they had said it to each other).
Took the kids shopping Monday night and then to Starbucks. Tuesday we went bowling again, and had a fab time with my brother's family, including air hockey and pool. When at Starbucks and Bowling D14 tagged us all into fb. Whilst these GAL activities are for me and the kids, it's good that W can see we are getting on with things and enjoying ourselves.
Its our 12th wedding anniversary a week Sunday, but I am not going to mention anything to W. I have purchased a basic card, not wrote anything in it and it will stay in the draw. Usually for Valentines Day and on our anniversary I send roses, chocolates and a card with a balloon to W (at work or at home) but not planning on anything this year.
I have received only 1 text from W (about collecting S12 jeans) in the last week and a half, so no physical or communication signs, however W seems to be acting like the LBS, and MF's have said she is acting like she is the one who has been dumped as W:
Is not eating properly and lost a lot of weight Is drinking more than she ever did Is not calling MIL like she used to Is not opening up to friends Is moody with the kids Is arguing, shouting and swearing at the kids Is not feeding the kids properly and can not be bothered to cook Is not doing things with the kids, and seems to just stay at home, watch TV and drink wine, plus the kids just stay in their rooms when at W's Has not talked about D Has not contacted a solicitor/lawyer (as far as I am aware) Potential OM disappeared after 1 week and just going out for drinks, so fantasy of problem free new life somewhat changed
Don't know if these things mean anything, but they are actions (I have no words to go by), but then again her actions are no contact to me (she communicates through the kids) and she has moved out!
I am not reading to much into above as out of my control, detachment is improving by the day. After the conversation with the kids on Monday I was about to just give up as I was concerned over kids and annoyed with the sit and how they felt, but will just carry on getting on with my life, and if W wants back in she will have to show a lot to do so, the path remains clear and smooth though.
Me - 37 W - 38 D - 14 S - 12 Together - 16 Married - 12 Bomb - April 13, 2011 W moved out - May 13, 2011
The man I became is changing back to the man I was........... and more
