Quote: W has started to express what she is missing from our M. This was great to hear. It's the first time that I felt that I wasn't the only one missing something. W started reading SSM a little before the kids woke up yesterday and stated that "It's describing me." She says that she feels the spark is missing. But unfortunately what used to give us that spark is largely impossible with kids. We can't just go out to dinner, away for a weekend on short notice, lay in bed on Saturday mornings or Sunday afternoons to watch a football game, etc.
Okay, some things, Are the kids on a schedule? Are they or you involved in too many activities? Do you have a family night.
You must have a weekly date!!! You must have an overnight at least every other month!! You must have a week away with out the kids!!!
The less time you take to reconnect the futher apart you will become. These times are when you find out what is bugging her and can correct it, so it does not fester.
3 HOURS A NIGHT- Most coulple average 15 minutes a night, so consider yourself lucky.
Work with other coulples to get away, trade babysiting time, be creative, I hate to tell it but your marriage that is at stake.
