XYZ is here, but I won't be staying...

[XYZ]

Home from dinner. All-n-all I'd have to give it an A-. I was fun, funny, happy guy. Looked good, felt good, ordered something new (that even got a comment from W, "that's not what you usually get") Generally good conversation with W. Lots of eye contact. She asked about my work and I talked about it in detail (that was always a big deal for us, me not discussing my work). Asked about her work and family. Made some jokes. Even got a few smiles from her. Good times.

Only one even close to R item: She asked about my how my brother was doing. He's much younger and newly married. I relaid a conversation I had with him about him working too much (he's a lawyer and works 6 or 7 days a week). I told him how work has been a major issue for me in my marriage and that if I could go back I would trade places in a second and work a normal schedule so that I could be with my wife. Work just isn't worth it. W replied "he doesn't get it, does he?" Me: "I don't think so, but I wish he'd listen to me and learn the lessons I've had to learn the hard way". That was the closest anything came to an R discussion.

Only negatives where: little background first, last time D5 stayed with me she asked if I missed mommy. I replied "yes, I miss her every day". Maybe not the best answer, but honest and spur of the moment. Well apparently she shared that with W. Towards the end of dinner, D5 says "daddy, mommy says she doesn't miss you". W jumped in to explain that D5 told about the conversation and she was trying to just not confuse her. Well, ok, but that stuck like a kick to the ribs. I recovered quickly, though.

Only other negative was that W was on her BlackBerry pretty constantly working with a patient in crisis - that was the biggest (by far) issue that I had with her and probably the thing that brought everything to a head. She didn't even try to give the appearance of that changing. I just ignored it like it wasn't going on.

Lastly, kids VERY clingy when I left. Multiple kisses, hugs, "we don't want you to leave daddy", etc. How any PERSON could see this and not feel it is beyond me, but somehow W at least gave the appearance that she didn't mind it, although she told kids "we'll call daddy after bath" - that'll be in about 10 minutes. Maybe she has a glimmer of heart left in her.

I have no expectations, but it'll be nice to see if there's any followup on her part. I'll go back to be dim. As Sparky has said "catnip is sniffed, it does't do the sniffing".

Otherwise all good.