I mentioned that I no longer had fear of a lot of things, however I fear for my W's well being. It su@ks. The part of not rescuing is apparently a difficult one for me when it comes to detachment. I want to save her, however I know that I can't.
I always feel this way about my wife. I guess that is why i agreed to all that she wanted. Somehow i thought that she would suffer if i start asserting myself. But now when i look at it, that is not healthy. That is co-dependency.
So do the right thing. There's not much you can do if she gets hit emotionally. Remember that this was not your choice to get on this nasty path.
BITS M 38 W 36 D 7 Married 15 yrs W left for 6 months in 2009 W Filed for D 01/03/11 piecing now...