X, you know, I think you learn by doing. And, from being who I really am; confident, friendly, fit, handsome(inside and out) knowing & believing I deserve nothing but the best, laughing, being unreasonably happy--check out the book, Way of the Peaceful Warrior. Not being pompous, just happy and fun-lovng, ya know. I too, love my wife and do want her back, but not who she is right now. Life is good even in the face of mine being turned on it's head. I'm piecing together for the world to see--whether w is in it or not. think I read somewhere on here, in order to truly live life, it first must be shattered.