ooohweee what'sup wit that

[25yearsmlc]

It's pointless to respond to your post SBH

b/c you never answered the questions asked of you. You posted a cursory "I fixed all my issues!"

and then you left the questions posed, ignored...

you just hurl out your assertions, repeatedly
which I guess is the reason you post. You don't ask for advice or take any.
Nothing I say will make an bit of difference to you.


So I won't bother wasting your time, on your situation.


But as for your comment that I know "all" situations...

I believe there IS a univeral concept applicable to ALL of our situations &

I stand by that.


I submit that since the sole dimension of our painful situations, over which we actually do have control,

regardless of why or how we got here....or who is "to blame"

is that we can only control our own behavior.

So We ALL have to LET GO of trying to control/edit/critisize/ or judge

our spouse's. Period.

We must own our part, to do our best to improve, and leave the results up to God.

For some, DBing is almost Radical. For some, it's a Godsend. For some, it's too hard.

If that's the case for you, go elsewhere. Why must we defend the approach espoused here? No one forced you here.

We're supposed to help each other see our own roles in the marital problems we're facing, for obvious reasons. This benefits US no matter what else happens.

We're NOT here to bash and condemn the WAS, but we can validate the pain of the LBSer, & show them how to get through it. We can help set and enforce healthy boundaries.

There is a crucial difference between condemning the WAS past behavior, and helping the LBSer.


BTW, NO ONE HERE, including MWD, or me,
thinks ALL marriages must be saved, let alone at all costs.