JTB .. glad to see you're still here and ready with the reality checks. You're a hard boiled cuss, but a straight shooter for sure.
I am fortunate to have many male friends, and many who care about my sitch. Been doing a lot of stream fishing with buddies in the High Cascades this summer, so that's been most theraputic. Some good wineries and wine tasting in our region, so that's been fun with friends too. Got to constantly remind mystelf to just make the time and plan ahead.
By "odds", I mean it pays to be realistic. No one is handicapping this game or placing bets. I hope for the best, but prepare for my own future either way. I'm lucky in that my W at least acts sane and is very congenial (her halmark over the years), so drama is not part of our sitch. Once I got into her vibe and quite fighting the sitch, all has gone much better. At least it will make for a better divorce and co-parenting down the line.
Yes, I have time, and that is my ally. My W's MLC would have been a most facinating process to watch had it not involved the life of my kids and I! What I've learned most is to try and emphathize with my W's struggles. GAL has also been most important, and that's coming along just fine. Again, being there for my kids is #1.
So as you said, who knows what will happen at the end of the next 8 months. I try not to concern myself with her personal life, and she with mine. I am at peace either way.
By MLC H's, I mean those with wayward W's. It's her detachment from the kids which puzzles me most.
