Positively moving forward

[awest1217]

Believe me mishka, I know XH sees OW as family, although he still tells me they are just friends. I think S should spend some time with her because she is a part of XH's life, but I hate the lying. I just want honesty. When he td me about the trip he didn't say family trip. He said guys only trip. Then his mom wanted to go so he told me individually who was coming never mentioning OW and never saying family or anything that would lump her in. We agreedto letthe other one know when significant others came into S's life because S is 3 and although he is extremely smart, he does mix things up so to be sure we are both telling S the same thing we agreed to tell each other when S is being introduced.

I know this will happen and I can't stop it and haven't even talked to XH about it. It just frustrates me that he asks me to keep him informed, but he won't do the same, and that even divorced he still can't be honest. Oh well...it makes me rethink being so respectful and nice to him, but I will still do it because it is best for S.

Also with S he is acting out a lot when he first comes home with XH. I am sure it is normal, but it bothers me that he yells at me for about two days after getting home. Then he is fine. He yells and tells me what to do. I have just turned to talking calmly and not reacting when S is that way and then once he calms down explain that he can't yell at mommy.

This is all exactly why I didn't want to D. D is hard, but besides last weekend, all is well. S and I made a tent in the living room and I slept the best I had in months so that was nice. We have dentist appointments this week. Spending time playing. An outdoor musical Friday with some family. Lunch with a friend from high school Saturday and Sunday will probably be the beach.