I will let you know, I will bottle it and sell it. HAHA. I was out on my job this morning and my mother in law passed and saw me in the parking lot. She stopped to make small talk, she had askede how the kids were doing and I said fine, and she asked if w had them last night and I replied yes and that I picked them up around 10. I told her that it was a good transition and w seemed friendly. She told me that we needed to be friends and with that she had hoped we could put our marriage back together. She told me that she asked w last week if she could swollow her pride and go back home. W responed to her mother, that pride had nothing to do with it, and yes she could go back home, that she was afraid that things would not change. My MIL told me that w noticed the changes in me, and had made comments to her on numerous occasions about them. My MIL was in the bar last wed night when I went there. She told W that he had a good time he laughed and she was happy to see me there.
MIL told me that I sould try to get with w and sit and talk some things out. Maybe go on a date and eat dinner and just make small talk.
She said she was going to talk to her some more, but I made it very clear to her that I wasnt waiting around for w to come back and I felt she didnt need to talk to her. MIL advised that she knows who her daughter is and she knows how to push her buttons and she would do nothing to make it worse or for her to feel like i was waiting for her. I told MIL that I was not trying to be mean by not answering phone but I have to move on. She told me that she would talk to her and all efforts would be to make her feel like her marriage is worth saving.
I dont think at this point I should ask W out to eat dinner. I feel is she wants to talk about R or trying to mend or piece things she would come to me ask if she was ready. This is the part I am not sure about. Should I make the attempt or let it lie for a while longer.
W is leaving in three weeks from now to go off for training for 5 weeks and will not have the chance to come home on weekends. She told her mom that is bothering her badly and didnt like leaving on the terms of what is going on in her and the kids lives right now.
Anyone have any input on the asking out for dinner? I think it may still be to soon. My friend told me to wait and see if she could put 4 days together with the same emotion, as everyday she is eratic on behavior. I dont want to set myself up for a set back if she were to say no. This is a big deal for me, and I dont want to screw this up. PLEASE HELP!!!!
