Slowly we unfurl, as lotus flowers

[25yearsmlc]

Hey, I made it two weeks!

yeah, but now your back to square one.

CS,
I see a lot of you in me in my early stages.

Something to think about.....
I know having the MIL in your corner gives you comfort.
I thought the same way too.

All these little thank yous and such, you are getting exciting about won't mean anything in the grand scheme of things. They are giving you false hope.

[b][b][b]From what I'm reading, I'm getting the sense of your W having the best of both worlds.
Having an affair and having a happy family lifely [/b][/b].
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But that's not the case with CS's wife. She's openly miserable. She's NOT having the best of either world and it's painfully obvious to her (and me). True, this isn't necessarily moving her towards CS either b/c she thinks things have gone too far, (my first guess) AND OR

because she still thinks she can somehow pull off a better life without marriage to him, down the road. Clearly it's not now. My point is not that what CS is doing "works" b/c I do agree that what works is what gets them back toward you....

and what we are seeing is her stalling out.

I am HOPING that it means she's getting close to hitting the wall where she really has to look at the choices she has made and whether she's truly happier with these choices and IF NOT, what can she do about that...

But she's only beginning that stage imo. I hope CS can live his life well enough and happily enough that it doesn't matter to him all that much, what his w does...b/c HE is alright, no matter what. That means, among other things, NOT reading into everything.

CS til she SAYS OR DOES something about more time with you...none of this other stuff, matters much. Enjoy the fact that she is not a witch to you. It matters and it's a good thing, no question.

But that only means, she's not a witch to you. Let that be enough for now. No conflicts....and you live your life. Let her discover whatever it is she needs to discover to wake up. When she does, she may decide she's in a different place and is not interested in a reconciliation. We cannot know yet. She doesn't know.

Stop trying to win her back by doing all these "nice " things.
What's that say about you?

Let's try and get to two months withut sending a pic.

Sounds like a good idea. CS??