Well i held out on texting my wife until she texted me here's the texts:

w: what are you doing

me:just workin babe, getting ready for lunch (I sent this about 30 minutes after she texted me)

w: you aren't texting me at all

me: how about you, how are the girls (I had to explain that the how about you was directed towards what was she doing)

w: gonna wash my hair the girls are good

me: i've been swamped with owrk, trying to finish up a project.... I have a design review on Thursday

w: oh ok did u play hockey last night

me: yep, had a good time

w: good

All of her replies pretty much came immediately after i sent her my replies. It felt good to be able to wait til she texts me first. She's so used to me texting her first and all the time. It feels good but at the same time it hurts.