JTB beat me to it. You have to do things for *yourself* now, not her. Like he said, you don't have to be a jerk, but a simple "no, I'm not willing to do that" will do you (and eventually her) wonders. It's empowering.
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011
