My Wife Wants to Separate

[DeterminedFather]

I had a great Father's day weekend with the children. They got me an XBox since I don't have a video game. It makes them happy.

We have separate checking accounts and have set up paying our own bills. I got an email from her stating "I am not comfortable paying for your cell phone as part of the family plan. Please get your phone taken off the family plan." This seems petty but I decided to be open and non-judgemental when talking to her about it.

During our conversation she made several statements that seem just plan odd to me since she has wanted me out for the past 6 months and now she has it.

- She isn't happy that I still have a key and a garage door opener to the house while I have a separate life with my own apartment. - I haven’t been back in the house unless it’s to pickup/drop off kids. I will give her back the key to house we both own if she wants it.

- I seem to be enjoying my separate life in my apartment. – I’m trying to make the best of it. Does she want me to be miserable?

- She feels like she doesn’t know me anymore. That I’m secretive and don’t share information. She cited that I didn’t give her my new address. She only got it from a shared email account. – Ugh, she helped me move. It’s not like I was keeping it a secret. I’ve tried small talk with her but she’s not willing to chat with me. Just yesterday, I called to ask how a big school PTO project she ran went and she said “Fine” and got off the phone.

Last week she got upset that I sent a change of address form to the Post Office because she thought it caused the post office to change her mail. I reassured her that it was a change of address only for me, not the entire family. Still didn’t help so I cancelled the change of address.

How can she be angry at me for so many things when I’ve moved out at her request? I think I’ve been very reasonable with all of her requests. The one thing she keeps bringing up was me wanting to protect myself before moving out by talking to a lawyer and understanding what my legal rights and risks were.

After multiple years of her saying she wanted a divorce and that I should move out she still wants to make it seem like I’m the cause of all of our problems.

I can’t take this anymore. If she called me up tonight to say let’s get a divorce I would agree and suggest we both get lawyers and meet tomorrow.