Thank you Gal, Starsky, and Direction1. I trust what you say and and I trust what I have read in the book. I also believe what DB coach has said. She told me last week that W has not been out there long enough to feel her true remorse and doesnt know how to piece it back together yet.
Patience is truly the key here. After having a good night with w and seeing some signs of improvement I feel like she should call this morning and put it all back together today. That is the part that is hard for me, PATIENCE.
And yes the GALing thing is a good thing, and I know she was really concerned last night as she could smell me and as she put her hand on my back while kissing s8 goodnight.
I am very fortunate to have a great friend that has been a God sent through all of this. She went through the same type of stich with her husband a year ago. She has coached me and helped me make some good decisions when i have to come in contact with w. She tells me almost word for word what w reaction is going to be before it happens.
She also told me not to be afraid of pushing her away by GALing and going dark. She told me that when w if ready to come back nothing will stand in her way. No om, no woman that may be in my life, she will not care what others think. No 100 men could stand in her way. And when she is ready she will scream it from the rooftops that she made a mistake and ask for another chance.
I truly believe her and also you guys on here, this has been an amazing site for me, the book and the DB coach by phone.
And yes Direction1 it has been a better feeling knowing that I have been doing some things for me and my kids. I know I can do this and I know my w doesnt have much ammo left to throw at me. The ammo she has thrown so far I have not reacted or showed much emotion to it. I validated her on all the issues and stayed calm and relaxed.
I will continue my fight, with God as my pilot. Thank you all for the responses,man was that the greatest thing to wake up to this morning.
