Just my input on the "divorced at least a year"thing. Seriously??? I have to agree that some people date before they are emotionally ready and that usually ends in disaster. And some folks judge others for dating before their divorce is final but GET REAL. In some places and for some good reasons - divorces can take years. For instance - my sister's marriage broke up 11 years ago. Her H was arrested for child abuse and has lived thousands of miles away from her with very minimal contact. They have not divorced for financial reasons. Should she not date???
My C told me that I was free to be with someone new once my ex confirmed he was living with another woman (he had lied about it for some time - moved directly in with her after I kicked him out). Yet he would NOT cooperate with getting the divorce. So - he was living with another woman and our divorce took 5 years. I was emotionally divorced from him before I started dating but not on paper. I took some lashes here on the board. Felt like I was the cheater. I don't think that was fair.
So - yes - you have to be "over" your spouse and have done the work before you date. Divorced is better but I don't think time limits are reasonable when everyone is different and I believe that all situations need to be looked at individually. Let's not judge each other.
