Oh yeah, there are tons of ways to get more power, if you want to turn this whole thing into a control issue. Power plays, tactical strategies, one upsmanships, sure, you could make her life a virtual living hell and not even bring up divorce.
What you want, it seems to me, is guaranteed return on investment at, say 15%, no penalities, no bull markets, for however long you decide to stay in it.
I just don't think this scenario exists. Great reward requireds great risk. You want rewards but are willing to take absolutely no risks whatsoever. So, I'd stay in your marriage until your kids are grown and out of the house, get through it as best as you can, then cut bait.
CeMar, I have to say that from your posts, I don't think you are in love with your wife, and I don't think you genuinely care for her feelings either. I think you resent her, I think you have extremely deep anger issues with her, and I think you should seek counseling to deal with those feelings. I don't mean that as a criticism. It really seems to me that you are more interested in controlling your wife and finding a way to MAKE her give you what you think you deserve, and this is all due to personal convictions about marriage that you are unwilling to re-examine.
I'm not sure that there is anyone on these boards that will be able to help you. Several people bring up things for you to consider, and all you do is say, yeah, but... and then launch right back into your tirades and list things out as you see them. Almost every post you've made on these boards is exactly alike. To me, that makes you a guy who listens but does not hear.
My heart felt advice to you, and this is my last posting to you, is that you seek the professional help of a psychologist.
