I'm not quite saying, let it go if it's a sore point. I'm saying, examine your actions as honestly and objectively as you can and look for things YOU are doing that contribute to your unhappiness. Think about what a day in your life would look like if you were happy. What would that mean in practical terms? What would you actually be doing?
One of the things I thought I would be doing if I were living the good life was working out every morning. So now, I come as close to that as I can. That's just one change. Cutting back on your gaming time might not be that for you . . . but if spending hours per night in front of a computer isn't making you happy, maybe it is. I do guarantee that there's SOMETHING you can do differently than you're doing now. Your wife would have a hard time making you miserable all by yourself.
If this all sounds stupid and I seem like I think I know everything, that's OK. Just keep it all in mind. Either it'll make a sort of sense one day, in which case you can use it, or it never will, in which case, no big loss.
Oh, and yes, heat [censored]. Maybe you could swim, or go cycling? One of the things I love about road cycling is that I'm going 20 mph most of the time and even if it's hot out, I'm in the breeze. It's not just about getting into a shape that looks good or tempts women; it's about feeling good.
