74 Days - Who Knows?

[Denver_2010]

It seems more difficult not to have contact with her after we spend a lot of time together like we did last week.

So I guess that I am going through some W withdrawals and feeling a little down today.

Plus, there is a good chance that I won't see her for a couple of weeks.

You love her. I respect that. I also know you're just "talking it out" here on the boards.

I don't want to drill you on the negative, so I won't. However, I will give you another word of caution...the way your feeling WILL somehow come out to your wife. I truly believe as transparent as you are, you will somehow SHOW her these feelings; even if you don't say a word. I think it's absolutely mandatory that your actions at this point show strength. When you are the most down, is when you can come across at your worst.

Suck it up and go do something that gets your mind off of this. She is living her space; you need to live yours. You have NO control over what she feels or wants; just be the best Denver you can be, and most importantly be happy without her.

She is definitely watching you and that's good. However, being available and weak WILL hurt you. Stay strong and GAL more than usual. Anything! Just do something different while she goes away. Do something that SHOWS you didn't pine over her the whole time without her. Give her YOUR "story" after her good time with friends.

Show her you can live without her and still have fun. The goal is to share this together, not depend on each other for either of yourselves happiness.

Ugh... I know that you are right Faith. I hate GAL! LOL... I know that I need to do it, but I would much rather do nothing than force myself to go out and do things that I don't care to really do. Just venting here.

I have started going back to the gym and am somewhat focused on that. I'm also trying to refocus on work... which isn't going well so far.

Do my feelings of missing my W come out to her even though I don't say anything? I don't know. Maybe you are right. But I have been pretty good about NOT initiating contact with her, and sounding very happy every time she contacts me.

I am determined NOT to contact her when I am feeling this way, or feeling insecure or in need of reassurance. I may have messed up yesterday with that, but that was a little different bc I was getting ready to book a very expensive trip.

Anyway... your point is well taken.

I am curious about what 'negative' that you elected not to 'drill' me on... I can take it Faith...

Thanks man.

Denver