I'm not sure where to start. I was on this forum a while back. Actually 1 month short of 2 years ago. My story is this, my wife of 19 yrs left the kids and I when I found out about her affair in 09. She left for 3 months seeing the kids only several times during her absence. I did all the divorce busting I could do. GALs , LRT, and such. It all worked to a charm she ended up coming back to us with her tail between her legs wishing we would forgive her. We did and we let her back into our lives. Swearing to me she realized what she had and that she loved me. She was going to prove it to me. Things seemed to be great for the last 2 years. Fast forward to 2 weeks ago. I'm driving my son across the state to visit my Uncle for a couple days to do some fishing and my son (14) looks at me and says "Dad I have something to tell you. Because I have been thinking about this all week and it is bugging me" I replied " Son it's best to get things off your chest so they don't eat at you" He agreed and continued " Remember when we went to (Local amusement park) and then (local water park) the next day with mom when you had to work last weekend" "Yes "I replied. "Well when we went mom had this guy meet us there. She told D (12) and I not to tell you because she said you wouldn't understand." he went on. "Dad I know they didn't act like just friends" OMG, I thought to myself. I could see someone cheating. Which is one of worst things one could do to another. HOWEVER, having your lover meet you while you are with your teenage kids. WTF!! I'm beyond words. It has been 2 weeks and I'm still as hot as a red pepper about this. Yes, I'm hurt. Not as hurt as I was the first time mind ya. I feel like this is the ultimate slap in the face. She moved out and in with him before we got back from our trip. My D wasn’t here either and I later got a reply text message from D, she was with a friend spending the night. 4 days later I still hadn’t seen my D and I finally tell her it is time to come home. Mom had been letting her spend the night with this friend, then another, then another. She didn’t want to be with either mom or dad. She told me that she didn’t want to be around us and have to think about the divorce we will be getting. Turns out my WAS took her to her “new” man’s place and wanted D to hang out with them. I can see why D was so upset. My kids didn’t have the first idea mom and dad were getting a divorce. Then BAM here is your mom‘s new guy. UGH!! This is consuming me!! WAS keeps telling me that I’m over reacting and that it isn’t good for the kids to see me angry. I agree, but to think she’s giving me advice on how to act around my kids. Sorry all I seem to be venting. Do I love her, Well I thought I did. I spent close to 20 years with this woman. I wanted nothing more to take her back and prove we were meant to be together. Now my head is spinning. Do I move on and not work on my marriage. Show the kids how one should protect themselves from getting hurt again and again. Part of me wants it to all go away. The other part is done with all the hurt and endless hours sitting and thinking about how to get back at her. I know I’m above those pointless actions of retaliation, but I wished she could feel the hurt we as a family are feeling. . . .
Well I have so much more to say. Unfortunately, I need to get some much needed sleep before I work tomorrow. I can only pray I’ll be able to enjoy a night of peace.
Shane
Me 44 WAW 37 S 14 D 12
M 18 yrs T 20 yrs WAS 7-27-09 WAS #2 6-10-11
"Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome."
